What about your friends...?

Hello ladies and gents. Tonight, I want to talk about the topic "What about your friends". I don't want to use my own life as the example of tonight's topic, but I guess I gotta to get my point across. LOL.

I have been friends with this guy for most of my life (we'll say his name is Bryan, for the sake of confidentially. And if there is a Bryan reading this, it's just a coincidence that I used your name in the story. Relax, it's not you).
Moving along: So yeah, Bryan and I have been friends for most of my life, and for a period of time we didn't see each other, because he moved. So by the time we were around pubescent age, he and I began to like each other and decided to become boyfriend and girlfriend. Fast forward 5 1/2 years later, Bryan and I break up just before I go off to college, because he got a girl pregnant and lied about it (when I already knew what happened).

So after our breakup, we patched up our differences and became friends again. Fast forward 4 or 5 years later, he ends up doing time for an accident that ended up killing someone. So while he's locked up, he and I have been keeping in contact the good 'ole fashion way: LETTERS. So a few months back, I decided to write him a letter asking him about all the things that happened while we were a couple and the girls involved in the indiscretions with him while were couple. Now, mind you all that I did this, because there were things that I felt held me back from really trying to find a relationship worth being in, because he was my "first", and he hurt me back in the day. I wanted to heal my tattered heart and move on.

Anyway, we go on back and forth for about several letters discussing these past matters and trying to get things cleared up between us (that I should have cleared up a long time ago). He told me his side of the story from everything that was being told to me. So fast forward to this past week, he sends me a letter talking about how he should have listened to other people whom felt like I was holding him back from having female friends, or just friends period. I'm sitting there in a bit of a shock trying to take all this in, because he's making it seem like I made his life a living hell.

Now at that point I'm thinking: "What the hell is he talking about?" This is a guy whom cheated on me with tons of girls I can count on both hands 2 or 3 times over, but I was holding him back from having friends? Um, first of all, the "friends" he was talking about were using him. Second: all the girls he fooled with used him. And when it all came down to it, those "friends" talked mad shit about him behind his back all the while smiling in his face when he was around.

This just goes to show you that some people don't know the meaning of a friend. And when he was in the accident that got him locked up, he almost died as well. Not one person came to see about him. Not only was I concerned, but I even went out of my way to visit him while he was hospitalized. This boy broke every bone in his face and had to have reconstructive surgery to repair his face. I saw him with pins in his face, and his mouth wired shut. And this fool has the audacity to question my friendship with him, for people who didn't give two cents of a rat's ass about whether he lived or died?! Hell naw. His own best friend whom was born a day apart from him didn't even go visit him.

I wrote him a letter and let him know that if he's gonna throw away almost 30 years of friendship over some pettiness on his part, then I wished him all the best in the rest of his life. I'm too old to be arguing over foolishness. I've been the only friend that's had his back through thick and thin. I've been the only friend who gave a damn, and because I wanted to heal my heart and get over the past, now he wants to get pissy with me over his screw-ups. It's not my fault that when we dated, he was screwing everything that wasn't nailed down. It's not my fault that he got a girl pregnant and lied to keep me around. Nothing else could get worse than that.

The only thing I can truly say is that if he wants to be cordial and civil, fine. But if he no longer wants to be my friend, fine. Either way, life goes on and so do I. He won't have to no longer worry about me standing in his way.

So ladies and gentlemen, if you have a story or two about people whom you thought were "friends" that later turn against you, share your story. But just remember: PICK AND CHOSE YOUR COMPANY WISELY, BECAUSE NOT EVERYBODY IS WORTHY OF BEING IN YOUR COMPANY.

Peace and Blessings,
Untouched Jewel

"What About Your Friends" by TLC
What about your friends
Will they stand their ground? Will they let you down again?
What about your friends
Are they gonna be low down? Will they ever be around?
Or will they turn their backs on you