Ladies, leave it to the imagination

Hello ladies and gents. Yesterday, I know I was on one with the post I wrote. I was feeling a bit out of sorts for the past couple of days. But today I'm feeling a bit better. I also want to mention that I have reached my 23rd follower, Odara. Thank you so much Odara for showing love and hope your reading experience here at Bittersweet Times is great each and every time.



Okay. Today I was reading a post by It's not the way it has to go, but it's what I prefer. He was talking about his definition of Sexy. Alot of what he had to say was very powerful of what sexy can mean in so many ways, and I couldn't agree with him more. One point he made that stuck out with me most is when a woman isn't exposing herself to the masses to get attention from the opposite sex. She leaves it to the imagination. When he mentioned that, I was like: "Yes, finally a man who sees the same view point as I do!" I honestly didn't think that a man saw that attribute as something sexy. But I just want to address the ladies on this one, because I feel it's something critical and worth bringing to the surface, because some women don't seem to get it.

LADIES, COVER UP YOUR ASSETS. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE LEAVE WHAT YOU HAVE TO A MAN'S IMAGINATION!

It makes no sense for women to leave the house with half their ass out in public to catch someone's attention. That to me is asking for all the wrong attention. Sure enough "To each his or her own" when expressing yourself via fashion, but dammit, ARE YOU ASKING TO BE HARASSED?! I know I can't speak for the rest of the female population, but I have NEVER (and I do mean never) left home without clothing that didn't cover up my most precious assets. First and foremost, I had family that would have clowned my ass and told me to change what I got on, and I personally would have changed it with the thought that I looked like a hooker on the stroll.

I have been approached more times than I can count by men when I was looking a hot mess. And when I mean hot mess, I mean exactly that. I would go out in a t-shirt, sweats, kicks, and a ponytail (straight or nappy) and could care less about it. Dudes would want my phone number, and I never understood as to why some guy (fine as hell or ugly as a motherf*cka) would want my number and I'm not looking my best. But once I finally got the concept that they didn't give a f*ck on how I looked, it at some point showed me that I didn't have to look like Superhead or Heather Hunter to grab his attention. But it also didn't mean that I wasn't gonna always go around looking like Moms Mabley either. LOL.

Anyway ladies, I just strongly urge you to see the beauty that is within you, and not put yourself out like you are extra easy by wearing some of the most skankiest clothes known to humankind. Sure your clothes don't make you and all, but let's face it: some men take things for face value and will ASSume you are a hoe. And you know what's said when you assume, right? I'm not saying you gotta take my approach by looking bummy as hell, but at least look decent to where a man can see you, think you are pretty and then wonder about your prized assets. When you leave things to the imagination, at some point you make things better off on your behalf. You won't be labeled something horrible and it forever ruins your life and your social reputation. All I say is just take the time to think about that. Or better yet, try it one day. Just wear your "kick it" gear, and go to a store or something that doesn't require dressing up. You might find a guy there that will see you for you and want to holler at you. And if you do, you may just have proven that you can look regular without having to put on your second face (make-up) and hoochie mama clothes. It may make you feel better about yourself. I know it did for me.

Until next post,
Ladies, leave your clothes on. Make him think about it...

Untouched Jewel.