For years, I have heard of as well as encountered women (of the same ethnicity as well as other ethnicities) cry out and wave the flag of "sisterhood". Women....I'm sorry, females.....want to scream about how they aren't supporting one another, etc., etc. and all this other hoopla about let's stick together and support each other blah, blah, blah.........IS UTTER BULLSHIT!
I have to admit, I myself wrote a post some time back about women (Black women in particular) not supporting one another. I today would like to retract those feelings. I will explain my reasoning. Ladies let's be clear about one thing: you claim you want sisterhood with fellow females and being able to get along with one another and not competing with one another. But the minute some dick is entered into the equation, all that sisterhood shit goes out the window. Yes, I said it! You will let some good bumping and grinding, huffing and puffing, hair pulling good sex from the best dick in the world come between yourself and another female, be it between a relative or someone not related to you.
I read an article last night on theroot.com that prompted me to write this post. This girl was hooked up with a guy by her "friend". As time passed, the guy ended up telling the girl that the "friend" that set her up with him was someone he had slept with before. Sadly, the "friend" failed miserably by not telling the girl she gave her her sloppy seconds. EPIC FAIL! Shit like this is why I don't hang with a bunch of females. And if I do hang with females, they are either people I've developed close friendships with or are family. Had that been me in that situation, I would have let ole girl have it for setting me up with someone she had first dibs with in the sack. Who the hell does that?! Second, I would sit ole boy down and let him know that whatever is developing between he and I could no longer continue. Reason being: for someone who slept with my friend, I wouldn't be able to take him seriously or see him as potential for anything to do with a future. But as far as ole girl is concerned, she not only was setting up the girl for failure, but herself as well. It would have served her right if the guy fell in love with the girl that got hooked up with him and the "friend" was left hanging, because she was just some ass dude didn't take seriously. Like they say, "When you dig a ditch, you better dig two."
I know I'm not perfect nor am I a saint in life. One thing I can say is that my moral compass will never ever sway for dick. I would never in a million years sleep with or date someone who slept with or dated someone I knew or are related to. Sadly, I've had acquaintances and "friends" do me shitty over dick. Even if I didn't date the person, but felt some kind of way about that person (and they knew about it), they fucked me over. I won't lie, I would be pissed on the inside, but after seeing them do me that way, I would "feed them with a long handle spoon", and go on about my business.
Ladies, when you are doing shady shit to a friend or relative for the sake of having some dick in your life, you ma'am are fake as Monopoly money and need your ass kicked. I say with utter conviction, because at that point your true character is exposed for what it is. Sure enough men come and go like the wind blows, but if you gotta stoop low enough for that one and risk a relationship with people whom have been down for you, that's when you need a reevaluation of yourself.
And ladies........I WISH HALF OF Y'ALL WOULD STOP ACTIN FAKE AND PHONY WITH YOUR FRIENDS AND RELATIVES WHOM ALSO HAPPEN TO BE FEMALE. Somewhere along the line you are jealous of that person and will do the most sinister shit to try to one-up them to make yourself feel better. YOU LOOK STUPID! Stop walking around talking about "she's my sister and I love her very much." Bitch, quit lying to them and yourself! Do yourself a favor and work on your insecurities before another lie flies out of your mouth. Yes, human nature is a beast in itself. But when you say one thing and are doing something else, that makes you a hypocrite. Be woman enough to deal with the fact that you are a jealous bitch of your friends or family and handle it accordingly.
And in conclusion, save that sisterhood shit for the mildly retarded. If you aren't doing anything to be "sister-like" (i.e. being a great support system and your loyalty to that person runs deeper than something or someone who would come in and break it apart), don't run around being fake. I find shit like that fake and fraudulent. Just......STOP. It's not a good look.
Until Next Post,
Peace & Blessins,
Untouched Jewel
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