Hello ladies and gents. I'm sure there are those of you whom are avid readers of Mr. Swagger. Friendly Neighborhood Fly Guy did a post entitled Till Death Do Us Part? He had some very interesting things to say, which leads me to respond, because I got somethin to say.
F.N.F.G. (Friendly Neighborhood Fly Guy), let's get something very clear: WOMEN DON'T DATE JUST TO DATE, SWEETIE. WE DATE TO FIND OUR "ONE"! See, this is where men get women miscontrued with chicks who ain't worth a dime with a hole cut in it. Gung ho broads will settle with just any 'ole hunky-dory relationship where they are just in it to be in it, just happy-to-be. WOMEN (with sense) will let you know off the bat what they are looking for, and if you don't fit the description, kick rocks. Women whom are looking to have someone who is about something and are destined for greatness won't settle for some "in the moment" type thing. Women figure that if you aren't looking toward a relationship that is for-sure going to be long term, it's a waste of time, effort and energy getting their hopes up in that one person who's only looking for a female to just be with for the time being until something else better comes along.
Women don't have time for child's play, hoodrats do. Now I won't say that alot of women will agree with what I have to say on this very topic, but I'm sure they at some point won't fall for just anything either. Men must understand that a woman's feelings (emotions) are not something to be toyed with. If you want to date just to date, say so. If you are looking for wife material, say so. But absolutely DO NOT string a woman along thinking she's your "one", when you knew you had some other woman coming off the sidelines as your starting player. SOOOOOOOOO NOT A GOOD LOOK AT ALL.
So to you F.N.F.G. and all the rest of the male population out there reading this: BEING ASKED IF YOU ARE GOING TO MARRY SOMEONE IS NOT PRESSURE UNLESS YOU ARE SHUNNING THE IDEA OF MARRIAGE ALTOGETHER. Women will only wait but for so long for you to make up in your mind what it is you want to do and with whom. After that, WE'RE GHOST. F.N.F.G., what your ex said to you wasn't wrong. She might have come off a bit brash in her tone, but she wasn't wrong. YOU are the deciding factor in how your relationship with your s.o. goes. But like I said, a woman will only wait but for so long before they decide they've had enough and leave. Don't let that be your relationship with your girlfriend. If you wait too long, you may find yourself by yourself and starting from scratch all over again. Just know what it is you want, and the rest will eventually fall in place.
Until next post,
Peace & Blessings,
Untouched Jewel
6 comments:
Well Miss Jewel, you left the gate open on this one. Does love have anything to do with this? I can not imagine throwing away a lover "in love with" for a piece of paper. What is a marriage anyway? A person can look in the wanted ads and find someone to marry them.
@ Carey Carey: I would have to disagree with you on this one. A marriage is a UNION where TWO people come together to become ONE. Sure enough anybody can pick up someone in the want ads, but does that make them happy with the person they are picking at random? NO. And why would anybody with sense want to do that anyway? Like I said, there are men out there who shun the idea of marriage (when they claim they love the person they are with), but will shack up with a female for a prolonged period of time? Hell, might as well get married at that right. One thing is for dang sure THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS COMMONLAW MARRIAGE IN THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA. LOL. It's either you're married or you're not. But women who know what they want don't settle for the okey-doke. A man would either have to step up or just step.
" A man would either have to step up or just step."
UH HMM!
I cant really say nothing coz i havent really read dudes blog. But i see exactly where you're coming from.
I don't know Jewel, maybe I am missing something. I picture two people in love and are not married. Now, lets say they are living together but not "married". Are you saying if ol'boy doesn't say I do that you would consider walking away from the relationship. Sounds like that is what you are saying? I know a commitment is very important but it doesn't stop anything. But to be fair, it does say that a person ain't just trying to "play". Yet again, to walk away is very strong.
Excellent post. This goes to show you how the value of marriage is so diluted these days.
@ Carey Carey: Yes, I would walk away from that relationship for the simple fact that if it takes a man a million and one forevers to make up in his mind that I'm the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with, then I'm stepping. That just shows me he wasn't sure about me from jump. Let me ask you this: what if a woman decided to wait for a long time, and then dude decides she ain't it, and moves on to someone else he barely knows and jumps up and marries them? What does that say about the man? What does it really say about the woman who waited on the man? To me, that says she waited in vain when she could have been with someone else who liked it and could have put a ring on it (if he knew what it is he wanted). NO WOMAN wants to spend a part of their life waiting in vain for a man who ain't figured it out yet.
@ Curvy Gurl: you are absolutely right. It seems like people are more satisfied with being baby daddies/mamas than husbands and wives. I know I'm what's considered a baby mama (of two), but I'm at a point in my life where I want to be regarded and considered a wife to someone who will love me and know that person is gonna spend the rest of their life with me. It's all a matter of stating one's intentions from jump street. COMMUNICATION IS KEY.
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