Single parenthood is the DEVIL!!!

Hello ladies and gents. I know y'all thinkin I done feel off in the deep end of the pool somewhere, but I think this is truly relevant.

I had epiphany, and it's lead me to believe that single parents are doomed to either be alone, or embroiled in some sort of drama or another. Seems like most single parents don't get along with the other parent, and it's always a big mess. And don't let one of the parents be on their 'new mate campaign'. TROUBLE. It just really seems to me that somewhere along the line, problems come in between the two parents and a shit storm arises.

You know, I was about to write a book about ways for single parents to get along with the other parent and be civil, but after the chaos that went on in my life, I put that on the shelf for good. I figured, why write a book giving people advice, when I can't find a balance in my own? So that's a done deal. So, thanks to D, for being the inspiration of the beginning and demise of my book. Much love.

Moving on, so like I said, single parenthood is the devil. I state that for these reasons:

• trying to date someone and the nature of the relationship between yourself and the person you're dating becomes so strained due to you having kids.
• baby mama/baby daddy drama: ALWAYS CHAOS.
• making the attempt to be civil or cordial with people, and you are on the brink of choking the hell out of them.

Sometimes I wonder, is it really meant for single parents to be loved just like everyone else is? Is it meant for single parents live and be happy with someone special (outside of their kids) they love dearly? Is it really possible for baby mamas and baby daddys to be civil and/or friends? See, there's too many questions that are asked and are unanswered.

It's like single parents are second-class compared to two-parent married families. What some fail to forget is that they too were once single parents before they decided to marry each other after Lord knows how many years, children and baby mamas later. Anyway, I feel that single parents shouldn't have to feel like they are wearing the curse of lonliness all the time. For years, I felt like I didn't deserve to be with someone while I have a child that doesn't belong to them biologically. I've had the hardest time for years trying to maintain relationships, and all they do is fall apart (especially when it comes to children coming into play).

Ladies and gents, if you want to save yourself the hassle and headache of dealing with relationships, my suggestion would be to marry BEFORE kids--not after. And for the those of you are in one of those baby mama/baby daddy shackin up situations, make sure there's a clear understanding of what's taking place. Otherwise, you get lost in the shuffle of the relationship after the other person has moved on. CHAOS!

Single parents, if you want to be happy and find some sort of happiness, I guess you gotta take it by force and hold on to what piece of it you got. Don't let other people who want to date or mate you determine your fate of a relationship with them (regardless of the number of children). I figure this: if a person wants to get at you (a single parent), there must be something there that they want (...and no don't even start on sex) and see in you and will get at you as a single parent. If they want you, be aware of how they are with you. If you can tell they are out like Flash Gordon, that person wasn't meant for you anyway.

I'm gonna say this, so single parents pay attention: GET YOUR SWAG BACK. DO YOU, AND DATE UNTIL YOU FIND YOUR 'ONE'. Don't let the curse of single parenthood get you down. Make the best of what it has to offer, you might find the very one that you are looking for or is looking for you.

Until Next Post,

Peace & Blessings,

Untouched Jewel