Steve Harvey's Life & The Court of Public Opinion

Hey ladies and gents, it's ya girl Untouched Jewel...in the buildin!



I know many of y'all have seen recent events go down on the world wide web about comedian and book writer Steve Harvey where his ex-wife has put his (or should I say their) business on blast. As more and more celebrity gossip has come up about so many people time and again should come as no surprise to the rest of the masses that this type of news and gossip continually comes out everyday about somebody. But in some way, it all hits home for many of us whom aren't celebrities.


Now there is currently a gag order in the court of law that is in order for Steve, his ex-wife, and their lawyers to not mention any thing about what has happened in their marriage or anything stipulating from that. Okay...when the courts put gag orders in place, that means one thing, and one thing only: SHUT YOUR PIEHOLE, PERIOD! CLOSE YA MOUTH! DON'T SAY A WORD. And what Steve Harvey's ex-wife did was simply did everything she wasn't supposed to do times ten. She took what was supposed to be kept in the privacy of the two of them and aired it out for the whole world to see and hear, which has made internet news headlines, including Google. So in essence, the former Mrs. Harvey violated her gag order, and y'all know of course, there are gonna be consequences that will surely follow in court.


Ladies and gentlemen, when are we as people are gonna learn that two wrongs don't make a right? So what if he did cheat on her and do things in their marriage that caused it to be defunct? That's not to say that his supposed actions (or lack thereof) are excusable in any circumstance. But one thing it's not is justifiable to go and put that out 5 years later, either. Things like this happen in regular relationships all the time. How I know? It happened to me. And I will go on the record to say that yes, I did put out some information that was damaging and disparaging to the other person(s) involved, because I like Ms. Harvey, was angry, hurt, and felt the need to vent. I wasn't excused from that in no form or fashion. I'm not writing this to take sides in THEIR post marital drama, because I'm the last person to throw stones and have lived in a glass house.



Here's my point about this whole ordeal between the two of them: the only people that knows what happened in their marriage are the two of them. PLAIN AND SIMPLE. What baffles me is how this information is being put out so many years later which makes it look like there's some motive on her part as to what she is doing. What makes it even worse is how everything being put out there is causing emotional damage to their son. That is the one person who loses out in this situation. I heard Steve on the radio talking vaguely about it, and stated that it caused his son to cry, because he had friends and relatives who saw that debauchery and are looking at him and his family like what the hell is going on. Honestly, that's whom I feel sad for. And looking back on some things I posted on this blog almost two years ago about the father of my child make me stop to think about one day if my children were to see this blog and begin to question my integrity not only as a woman, but as a parent, and wonder what the hell was she thinking? And so it brings me to say this next statement, and if there are those of you out there that get mad and stop reading, so be it. Life goes on.


Ladies (and this can apply to men as well): whatever you do, DO NOT (I REPEAT DO NOT) GO OUT IN ANY PUBLIC FORUM AND BLAST THE OTHER PERSON FOR WHATEVER WRONGDOING THEY DID! They knew what they did, so what place is it of yours to address it publicly? Let that person be in the wrong, because God (yeah, I said that, too) can and will deal with them accordingly. Just as it is stated in Galatians 6:7 "Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap". -King James Version  If a person wants to go out and cheat, he will get the same in return by someone else. If a person goes out and puts someone's business out on blast, that same thing can and will happen to them. People can say that's universal law, but just as plain and clear it's the bible, too. Now if people can ask God and the other person for forgiveness, that's all well and good. That's still not to say that reaping what you sow still can't happen. When you put out bad vibes, you get them in return. I know I had to ask for forgiveness from both parties that I had blasted, and things have since been on better terms. But just know ladies and gents, nothing is a good look about trying to put someone else out there to make them look bad. God can do that all by himself by having a way of pulling the curtain and exposing a person's wrongdoing. It doesn't require your help.

And to those that are taking sides: STOP! Let Steve Harvey and his ex deal with their own issues without the court of public opinion. None of us here in the non-celebrity world are any better by giving our two cent opinion about what WE think he may or may not have done to Ms. Harvey. That's none of our business. And for those who think he is a dog by writing his books and giving what may possibly be sound advice about love and relationships, DON'T BUY THEM IF YOU THINK HE'S ALL OF WHAT YOU THINK HE IS. Their lives don't begin nor end with your opinion. Which reminds me of part of the lyrics to this old gospel song: "Sweep around in your own front yard, and stop sweeping around mine".


Until Next Post,
Peace & Blessings,
Untouched Jewel