Hey ladies and gents, it's ya girl Untouched Jewel in the buildin!
Ok, I'm sure most of the people who read this blog have truly seen Tom F***kery at it's finest moment. Well what I'm about to write about is nothing short of that. Are you ready? Here we go!
So I was talking to some peers of mine on Facebook, and I had posted something in regard to relationship status, and some of the responses I seen were of utter ridiculousness (yes y'all, that's a word, and I made it so. Lol). Some of the ladies stated that they are single, but are in relationships with dudes in jail whom are doing bids of more than two years respectively. I'm like what the hell is this?! These ladies are saying that they can't help what love does to them the reason they are "holding down" these men sitting in a jail cell. I flat stated my discontent in this, because there is no way in heaven, hell or earth I'm waiting on a fool doing a grip of time.
Let's face it: once these men come home after doing a bid or two, what makes it etched in stone that they are gonna come home being faithful to these women, after they have given up their well-earned freedom waiting on them. If they didn't put a ring on these ladies' fingers, they aren't guaranteed the man they had been waiting on all that time is gonna be any more or less to them than what they were when they were in prison. What baffled me is the fact that these ladies really thought in their own minds that they were strong women for holding it down for losers. Um...no. They aren't strong, they are stupid. And to me, that is stupidity.
I'm sure someone is gonna knock me for all that has been said, but who cares. Earth is still spinning and life is still moving forward to be sittin up at the house, job, etc. calling yourself waiting on a man who decided to waste away his life doing dumb sh**, knowing the consequences of getting caught would cost him his freedom. Why would any of these ladies waste away their livelihoods and futures on these men? Seems to me they must like thug jiggas who care about nothin or nobody, and these ladies were intrigued with the bullsh**. Ain't nothin attractive in any fashion or form about a thug jigga who ends up doing time for foolishness. That to me says they failed to grow up and better themselves as well as have any level of respect for themselves or anyone else.
Another thing that chaps my ass about stupidity is dudes who claim one thing and are doing somethin completely different. Case in point: I know a guy (and no, he's not my man...thank God for that) who claims he's single, but is living with a chick whom he calls his "homegirl". Now, he says that his "homegirl" cooks for him, he cooks for her, they have sex on a regular, but yet claims this homegirl is free & clear on her end as well, and there is an "understanding". Um...*scratches head* first of all, what woman is doing all this stuff for a man if she's just a homegirl? Secondly: maybe I'm the slow one here, but doesn't this clearly sound like one of two things, handcuffin or a relationship? Honestly, even though his situation isn't my business, but I call bullsh** on all sides with this one! This whole situation to me has holes in it, and lacks common logical sense altogether. What I'm seeing here is this dude is having his cake and eating it, too. Now I guarantee if this was really the case and the female in this situation is just a "homegirl", that title would change if one day he came home and another dude was hittin that. I can just about 100% guarantee his ego (man feelings) would be bruised and he would be butt hurt to no end.
Clearly, this homegirl has little to no respect for herself. If she is allowing this man to live in her house, and get IHP (in-house p***y) on a regular basis, she's stupid, too. I'm sorry friends don't f**k, cut buddies do. And it's obvious she's just that. And dude tellin other people he's "single as a muhf**ka". Really tho? Once again...I CALL BULLSH**! Single is when there are absolutely NO attachments to anybody whatsoever. But when you clearly have in-house with the person you claim is your homeboy or homegirl, that's not an arrangement...especially when you live together. Sorry, that's a relationship. STOP YOUR LIES!
So you see ladies and gents, when you are in situations where you are wasting your life waiting on someone else to get it together "for the sake of love", or claiming a status that you are far from being, that makes you look stupid in other people's eyes. It makes no sense to make a pure mockery of yourself thinking what comes out of your mouth is supposed to impress someone...it's not. Sure enough I'm not perfect by a long shot, but dammit I'm not being stupid for anyone anymore. I have been down that road of stupidity in my 20's. I'm in thirtyhood and refuse to carry the same f**kery into another decade of growing and progressing of myself. And that in turn is part of the reason why I'm still single. I refuse to be yesterday's fool today.
Yes, there is room for growth and change. But in that growth and change, there's no room for error of that proportion, ever. It defeats the purpose of taking two steps forward when you will stupidly knock yourself a few back to struggle to get ahead. Just think of it like this: if failure is not an option in your life for other things, neither should the status of your relationship with others. It's not a good look.
Until Next Post,
Peace & Blessings,
Untouched Jewel
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