Why My Silence is Golden...

Greetings ladies and gents.......it's the little lady Untouched Jewel in the buildin....bout to ink (or in this case type lol) this post for y'all right now. I got some relevant shit to say, so it's gonna require some of your time & attention. Well, that's if you bother to care. Anywho, moving right along....

I've had family members tell me that I never seem to talk about anything I'm going through or express my feelings about anything that affects me. That, well.....is the truth....to an extent. I've always known that about myself for a very long time. I've just never gotten down to the extent as to why I've been that way.....til right now.

See... me being a Cancer person (and for the slow, I'm not talkin the disease either), is likely to be labeled emotional, sensitive and wanting to talk some shit out all the time. Like I stated previously....that's only to a fault. Sure I will talk and get some shit out, but I ain't talkin to everybody. Meaning, if I even remotely believe you have a tendency to have "diarrhea of the mouth" and are prone to slippin some shit up or just can't shut the fuck up.....I'M DONE TALKIN TO YOU, PERIOD.

I'm not one of these type of people who's going around to everybody putting my own business out in the street for it to get back to me like a game of Telephone. Fuck that. I'm quite a private person, until I feel the need to let you in. Well, that's if I trust you enough to let you in anyway. *Kanye shrug* I believe in such a word as confidentiality. I believe that if I'm comin to you with some shit that I don't trust most muhfuckas (if my life depended on it) with, I expect that whatever I'm speaking with that person about goes no further than that conversation. But if I'm hearing my business being told amongst friends, strangers or even family members......your access and theirs to me on a personal level is officially cut off! I don't care if we are two peas in a damn pod and joined at the fuckin hip, don't do to me what I wouldn't dare do to you.

Honestly in this day in time, muhfuckas don't know what the words RESPECT or TRUST really mean. True enough some things in some situations can't be left a secret or kept quiet forever. However, when you have people who don't know when to keep their mouths closed for wanting to tell the latest on another person, that's when you either need to quit talkin or cut ties altogether. I'm sorry, but I can't just fully open up to people knowing they can't hold pee in their bladder for talkin. That's a problem for me on a personal level. At the end of the day it's all a matter and factor of people's respect of privacy. The moment you breach that trust with me all bets are off. I can't fuck with blabbermouth ass people on a constant basis. It's like the saying "if they are talkin about somebody to you, they'll talk about you to someone else." Sadly, I find that statement to be true.

You wanna know why my silence is golden? It's simple for a few reasons:
1. I don't want all my biz gettin out
2. I don't want my biz used against me like some kind of bargaining chip......I DON'T DO THAT BLACKMAIL SHIT. THAT'S CAUSE TO GET BEAT LIKE AN ALBINO FOSTER KID IN A HOME.
3. Rumors get started
4. Trust is breached
5. People become judgmental and preconceived notions of my character as a person come into question

I Untouched Jewel take great pride in knowing that I can be trusted by someone when they are willing to divulge something of importance to me. I know for a fact that whatever is told to me, stays with me. I know for a fact that whatever information I've been told by someone, it doesn't get out. Why? Because I've established a trust factor with them. They have established a trust factor with me. Regardless of my opinion, belief or feeling of that person, what they tell me will never ever get back to them via someone else's mouth.

But this thing I know for certain.....if you wanna earn my trust in you, start by listening and shutting the fuck up. The moment you even remotely put me in a position where I'm having to defend my character, doing damage control, etc., that trust is irrevocably broken. Respect is a two-way street. I expect you to respect my privacy every bit as much as I would respect yours. Win-win situation. I don't give folks room to continually fuck up by running their mouth. If you hang yourself with your own rope telling my business (and having the nerve to tell it better than the very one living it--me), you've hung yourself. Consider that a foot-to-mouth moment. I put trust on a very high pedestal among other things. Trust is never taken lightly with me. When you betray my trust by disrespecting my confidentiality, you betray me. That's why my silence is golden. No....it's platinum.

Until Next Post,
Fingaz & Blessins,
Untouched Jewel