A Revelation For The Ladies

Hey ladies and gents, it's ya girl Untouched Jewel in the buildin!

I know, I know...I had made a promise to write more often on this blog, but it's alot going on in my life right now that I didn't have alot of time to come on and spill my guts. But to start, my youngest son started kindergarten last month, and he has adjusted really well. My oldest son...well he's going through "the change" (aka puberty) and just dealing with him and his ever-changing moods, his voice from a boy to a young man (oh gosh!), and all the other little things that change with "the change". LOL. I won't front, it's a drastic shift, but nothing I can't tackle. Anywho, moving right along....

LADIES, LADIES, LADIES! I don't know what goes through the minds of our sex, but some things have got...to....STOP! I came to a revelation about how we as women are putting ourselves through these changes when it comes to men, trying to please one sexually or even trying to have one...it's ridiculous. This revelation made me think of an analogy as follows:

IF WE WANT A MAN TO RESPECT US AND TREAT US LIKE LADIES, WE GOTTA DRESS AND BE THE PART. WE HAVE TO TREAT DEALING WITH A MAN ON THE LEVEL OF LIKE A CHILD ANXIOUSLY WAITING FOR CHRISTMAS TO ARRIVE, AND THEY SEE THE BIGGEST PRESENT UNDER THE TREE WITH THE DOPEST WRAPPING PAPER WITH THE BIG SHINY BOW ON TOP. SO WHEN THE CHILD IS READY TO OPEN THE GIFT, THEY APPRECIATE THE GIFT THAT MUCH MORE. WHEN YOU JUST GIVE A CHILD A GIFT AND THERE'S NO WRAPPING OR SHINY BOW, THE APPRECIATION VALUE WANES QUICKLY.

To sum this up without taking away the "driving it home"point of the analogy: ladies, I know we've all heard the saying "If you got it, flaunt it". That's all well and good, however if we got it, we don't need to give no sneak peek. Feel me?! As my grandmother would say, "There's more than one way to skin a cat"...she wasn't lying. We can accentuate what we have physically without having to expose what we have to the masses for the wrong attention. And not only that, a man can appreciate it that much more by leaving some mystery to us and that "gift" that a man (child) wants to eventually and anxiously open. Now, if you are the kind of female that wants to go to the club and show off the goods like an open window mannequin on Michigan Ave., do you. However, just know somehow, someway you are going to garner all the unneeded attention from thirsty jiggas. Sorry...that's just the way it is.

But for those whom are seeking to have a future with the opposite sex or just even someone for a relationship and no further, my suggestion to you would be to still be yourself, but watch how you present yourself to that person. Somewhere along the line, they know there's some sort of mystery to you, especially that "gift" he's gonna want to open. You don't have to put on airs to make yourself more than what you really are, but DO DO DO leave some things concealed which means don't have your T&A on display. That man will not respect it when you are freely giving it to them.

Like Bill Cosby once said "presentation is everything". So present it beautifully and not blah, here you go! Cover the goods and accentuate what's good. You save yourself the whole uphill battle of PERCEPTION. That preconceived notion struggle is real.

Until Next Post,
Peace & Blessings,
Untouched Jewel